About Sweet and Sour Ministries
Hi, my name is Andrew Dulski, and I have a real good idea of how you feel. For my marriage was almost destroyed. I was ready to leave my marriage and family behind. I thought that happiness could only be obtained by escaping marriage and my home life. The grass seemed to be greener somewhere else. Only God's GRACE saved me from making the biggest mistake of my life. I was saved at an early age; however, for most of the following years, I did not walk with the Lord. Life was a roller coaster ride, but whenever I needed God, He was there! True to His word, “He will never leave you or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).”
For we know that God loves us dearly, we are His children. Our Heavenly Father hates divorce, which inflicts pain not only on you and your spouse but also on your children and grandchildren. It creates generational devastation. God gave His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to die upon the cross, for all. Jesus’ resurrection gives us hope that everything is possible through faith in Him.
The Lord is all I have, and so in Him I put my hope (Lamentations 3:24).
Why do I do this?
I have seen hopeless marriages resurrected, including my own. My wife and I went to secular counselors with no success. We went to Christian counselors, and there appeared to be no difference, in that they were equally unsuccessful in their approach. Finally, out of desperation I met with Dr. Ron Sauer. He was the interim pastor at the church we had not been attending for quite awhile. Meeting with him was drastically different than anything that I had earlier experienced. He ministered to me, guided by the Holy Spirit and an open Bible. He began to train me in the way that I was supposed to live as a Christian. Dr. Sauer taught me not only talk the talk but to walk the walk. He helped me restore my relationship with Jesus Christ which allowed the Holy Spirit to do His work in me. This was a very important place to begin. I could meet with Dr. Sauer only for a couple hours a week; but once the Holy Spirit was forming Christ’s character and conduct in me, He could enable me 24/7 to be the Christian and husband the Lord called me to be. The Holy Spirit is the Wonderful Counselor. Dr. Sauer and his wife, “Sweet Sue” trained my wife and me through the toughest time in our lives. Now we want to pass on the lessons which that couple taught us, along with the subsequent years of our own biblical training and further study of marriage, all to help others.
We all know that marriage is very hard. All marriages have difficulties from time to time. In my opinion very few knew what they were getting into when saying, “I do.” Most don’t know the extent of the challenges of marriage until they’re in it. That’s like being dropped in the middle of a huge dessert and expecting things to be O.K. A couple in that situation would immediately sense the need for additional training and guidance, in order to survive. Marriage is no different. We need to actively seek training to learn how to function properly in our marriage. None of us was born with the knowledge and skill to maintain a proper and healthy romantic relationship with a member of the opposite sex. That knowledge and skill must be obtained from outside of ourselves. Most of us go into marriage thinking, “How can my spouse make me happier and satisfy me?” The standard of Christian marriage in Ephesians chapter 5 teaches that the husband’s love is to be sacrificial, focusing more on the needs of his wife’s needs than himself. One aspect of marriage is that it’s an opportunity to reflect the relationship between Christ and a Christian, thus glorifying God. When your marriage is doing poorly, it may be hard to believe that the wonderful biblical marriage found in Ephesians 5 is even possible. But it is. Hindsight is often 20\20. Looking back I saw that living my way worked badly. This is because people were not divinely created to do live as they choose, but to follow God’s instructions for life. And why? He knows best and wants the best for you and your marriage. God does not waive a magic wand over our marriages and they just automatically get better; He requires effort on our part. However, you need not go at it alone -- He wants to come alongside and help us. None of us can forge ahead merely by our own strength, but must rely on His power and wisdom.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I Am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with My Right Hand (Isaiah 41:10).
Glancing back, I see life looking more like this:
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the LORD. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonging to him, and the other to the LORD.
When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he questioned the LORD about it. “LORD, you said that once I decided to follow you, you’d walk with me all the way. But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don’t understand why when I needed you the most you would leave me.”
The LORD replied, “My precious, precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.”
It’s impossible for me to get through that poem without tearing up. If we are calling ourselves Christians, then let’s get serious about our relationship with GOD. Because GOD was very serious when HE SENT HIS SON TO THE CROSS TO DIE for us sinners. JESUS CHRIST DIED AND ROSE to provide everything necessary to bring us into a proper relationship with our LOVING FATHER.
Mark 8:18, Do you have eyes, but fail to see? Do you have ears, but fail to hear?
Christians, children of God, brothers and sisters, let’s remember these words of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Don’t be blind and deaf. Upon accepting Jesus Christ as your Savior you received the Holy Spirit (Galatians 4:6).
Your eyes have been opened and you have the ability to hear.
It’s not necessary for you to invent the wheel; the wheel has already been invented, so let another couple who is a little further down the marriage path come alongside you and your spouse to help.
As iron sharpens iron, so one person [couple] sharpens another person [couple]. (Proverbs 27:17)
Please take the first step and contact us. My wife and I will gladly share in your pain and marital struggles, offering compassion, biblical guidance and training, along with prayer. Our goal will be to train you to walk with God and live peacefully with your spouse. Please contact us!
Dr. Ron Sauer
Ron Sauer (pronounced sour) is a pastor and professor of bible at Moody Bible Institute in Chicago. His spouse, Sue Sauer, is affectionately known as “Sweet Sue.” This is why we named our ministry, Sweet and Sour Ministries, in honor of this couple who are our spiritual parents.
Dr. Ron Sauer’s Educational Background
- Professor of Bible, Moody Bible Institute
- B.A., Mississippi College
- Th.M., Dallas Theological Seminary
- Ph.D., University of Manchester, England
Dr. Ron Sauer’s Ministry Experience
- 28 years as a pastor
- 36 years as a professor
- 46 years of marriage
- Mentored by Dr. Ron Sauer, over 2 ½ years and ongoing periodically for 7 ½ years
- Marriage Matters - Willow Creek Church
- Married Life - Grace Family Church
- Paul Tripp - What Did You Expect Conference
- Family Life - A Weekend to Remember (Multiple)
- Kirk Cameron - Love Worth Fighting For Conference
- Every Man’s Battle Conference
- Love and Respect Conference
- Love and Respect Church Facilitator
- ACBC Certification Pending
Married 29 years. (Unfortunately, until eight years ago, I learned much of what marriage is not to be, but God will use even this to His Glory). Jesus told Peter after his three-fold denial:
After you have returned to Me, go and strengthen your brothers.